It takes backbone, not wishbone, to get the life you want.
Think about it. How often do we look at someone else’s life and wish we had what they have and make excuses as to why we can’t be, do or have what they have.
The thing is, even when someone else’s life seems to be cruisy, you have no idea what they’ve had to go through in order to be who they are or have the life they have.
There is a Universal Life Principle that says that if something is possible for one, it is possible for all. The catch is that, just because something is possible, it doesn’t mean it will simply fall into your lap. There is effort needed. And sometimes it takes great effort to create a shift in your life that will get you the changes you are seeking.
The degree of effort needed is commensurate to the degree of the limiting mindset you hold about creating that life outcome that you say you want. And if you’re wondering how to assess your mindset – well, pay attention to the number and types of excuses you use whenever the opportunity arises for you to do something that challenges your status quo.
Regardless of what you come up with as the excuse for “I can’t because…”, the greatest effort required will be on addressing your mindset. Without the right thinking, you’ll continue to focus on and blame all those external conditions or circumstances – all your “I can’t because…” statements. That’s what’ll keep you stuck, doing what you’re doing, having what you have and being who you are. Over and over, each and every year.
My coaching mentor, Mary Morrissey has a great saying. She says “Some people get to live 90 years but most people live the same year 90 times.”
If there are areas in your life where the results you are experiencing aren’t what you want them to be, then you can take action to change what you are experiencing.
But it all starts with your mindset. You have to believe that it is possible for your life to change and that you are responsible for making those change. If you don’t believe that or if you aren’t willing to take responsibility for your own life outcomes, guess what? You’ll be one of those people who will get to live the same year 90 times.
Is that what you want?
No?
Then, you have to be willing to do the work. You cannot wait for circumstances to change or for people around you to change, to apologise, to acknowledge the mistakes they’ve made or how they’ve hurt you. You can’t sit back and blame past event, your family, your work, the government, the economy – whatever! – and use that as your excuse not to take steps to change the direction of your life. Yes, some of those things external to you may have contributed to getting you to where you are now, but they are no excuse to keep you from making changes and creating a ‘future you’ and a future life. One that you would truly love.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~ Maya Angelou
Wishing for things to be different won’t have any impact other than keeping your life as it is right now. Wishbone won’t cut it. You need backbone. You need decision and you need determination.
If you would like to learn more about creating the life you’d love to be living, then join me for one of my upcoming webinars where you’ll learn more about these concepts and much, much more, including stepping you through the process where you can start designing the life that you’d truly love.
