One of the funniest things I observe couples do is, that when they have an argument, one of them, if not both of them, will give the other ‘the silent treatment’ for a period of time. In their view, they are somehow punishing the other person by showing them how upset they are.
In some cases, the other party might actually be quite happy for a bit of peace and quiet! But either way, the person dishing out the so-called punishment will continue to stew in that negativity, anger and resentment themselves. I’ve seen this go on for up to 3 days in some cases!
However, regardless of the timeframe, eventually, the person giving the silent treatment will start talking again.
Now, given that they will eventually get over their upset and start speaking to their partner again, my question is: Why stew in negativity, anger, bitterness and resentment for 3 days if you could give it up sooner?
Have you ever found yourself choosing to hold onto a grudge, even for a few days, just to demonstrate your displeasure with someone? A someone who is near and dear to you, that you know you will end up making-up with again?
Why not consider not wasting so much time in negativity, anger and resentment? If you know that you will be letting go of that anger in an hour, a day or even 3 days, then why not let it go now?
If then, why not now?
