Focus on what you DO have
We’ve all done it. You know… The pity party. The ‘woe is me’. The ‘why did this happen to me?’ It’s so easy to fall into the trap on staying focused on what we don’t have, what we’ve lost or…
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Author Archive: Vera Herman
Vera Herman is a transformation strategist, facilitator, speaker and coach with over 20 years’ experience in helping individuals and organisations design and build their visions and dreams, accelerate their business results, and create richer, more fulfilling lives. She is passionate about supporting people who are ready to explore, challenge and change any self-defeating patterns, and design, build and step into the lives they were meant to be living.
Birds of a feather flock together
Various studies have been done which have shown that a person’s income level is aligned to the average income of their 5 closest associations – the people they spend most time with. As the saying goes: Birds of a feather…
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What would you love today?
In my coaching practice, the single biggest question I ask clients to explore is “What would you love?” There is such power and expansion in that question. It gives voice to a person’s heart which then opens up their mind…
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What are the odds?
Have you ever taken the time to recognise and celebrate your own uniqueness, gifts and talents? Have you ever taken the time to sit down and actually write down a list of these unique gifts? What about listing the things…
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Perfectionism
I was watching an interview with Caroline Myss last night and something she said struck me. And a whole bunch of childhood memories came flooding in. She said: “Perfectionism is just another disguise for fear. The fear of criticism.” Wow….
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It’s not time or money. It’s your priorities.
There are so many opportunities available to us right now to shift out of our discontents and to create the things we say we want in our lives. But how often do we come up with stories to explain away…
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If then, why not now?
One of the funniest things I observe couples do is, that when they have an argument, one of them, if not both of them, will give the other ‘the silent treatment’ for a period of time. In their view, they…
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The salad or the squid?
Have you ever had the experience where, when out to dinner with friends, there’s been someone who could not make up their mind about what to order? You went around the entire table just to give that one person a…
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Inside Out
Many of us believe that until everything is as we think it should be we can’t be happy. Not fully happy anyway. We all have our favourite I’ll be happy when… statements. I’ll be happy when… I get that job…
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Walk the talk
I’ve run scores of training sessions and facilitated many workshops for leaders in different companies and across many industries. One of the things that never ceases to both amuse and bewilder me is how leaders consistently fail to correlate the…
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