Consequences. It’s not a particularly popular topic that most people want to hear about. Then again, my blogs and videos aren’t for most people. They are for people who are at the stage in life where they are no longer satisfied with how things are but want to create significant change in their life.
And notice I said that they “want to create significant change in their life”; I didn’t say “they want things in their life to change.” There is a big difference is those few words.
In a way, we are all the same. Our first ‘go-to’ position when things aren’t going our way is to find someone or something to blame. It’s someone else’s fault that I’m in this position.
- It’s the government.
- It’s the economy.
- It’s my spouse.
- It’s the school I went to.
- It’s the family I grew up in.
- It’s what happened to me as a child.
I’m unhappy / stuck / broke / lonely because [insert something or someone to blame].
It’s very convenient to have someone or something to blame. But convenience won’t make any difference. Blaming someone or something won’t change a thing.
The only way to see change in your life – regardless of whether someone or something else had something to do with how you got to where you are – is for you to make a change. Because there is something you are doing or not doing that’s giving you the results you’re are experiencing right now.
Of course, there are circumstances or conditions that we find ourselves in. If we live in a society, there are laws and rules we must abide by, expectations and norms we need to adhere to, and responsibilities we must fulfill as a contribution to the collective. And yes, we can choose to not follow the rules, act outside of the norms, or elect to not fulfil our responsibilities – but there are consequences to making those choices.
And once we make those choices, it makes no sense to then act like victims of the consequences we ourselves created.
So, if you aren’t happy with how your life is looking right now, then take a good, hard look at the decisions and choices you’ve been making. If you want to experience life differently, then you need to stop looking for others to blame and start making different choices.
